Wednesday 1 December 2010

Reading an anti-feminist...

... article and why the roles of men & women are getting "screwed up" due to an ever changing expectation of the roles that men & women 'should' play.

I remember coming from a 'macho' culture [Philippines] to Sydney in the mid-eighties; 'gallantly' giving up my bus seat to a young lady only to be stared at [no 'nothank you' just a cold stare]! One of my first tastes of feminism... from then on I only offer my seat to pregnant and old ladies [making sure they are pregnant or old enough to appreciate my chauvenistic gesture!].

Excerpt from Josephine Asher's "Confessions of a young anti-feminist."

""As a 29-year-old single woman, many of my peers don’t appreciate my traditionalist views. I’d rather dodge a flying pair of high heels thrown at me in anger than pin a man under a pair of mine.

Feminism has achieved victories for women, but could it be at the expense of femininity, chivalry and attributes of the opposite sex that instinctively attract us to each other?

In his book The Way of the Superior Man, David Deida describes attraction between the masculine and the feminine as “sexual polarity”, referring to varying degrees of strength and vulnerability.

“This force of attraction is the dynamism that often disappears in modern relationships. If you want real passion, you need a ravisher and a ravishee. Otherwise you just have two buddies who decide to rub genitals in bed,” he writes."

Read the lively comments as well...

4 comments:

Cat said...

Great ideas! I love when men treat me well. I am independent, but I also know what needs men have. We all have deeply seeded roles. Equality, yes, but smothering...no!

Frangipan said...

This is really interesting but I don't agree. I don't think that being a feminist means sacrificing femininity and I think this is a frustrating misconception. Ok so feminism shouldn't be at the expense of chivalry, but there definitely is a place for it in all women.

JayAshKal said...

Hi Francesca, I agree that 'being a feminist means sacrificing femininity...' Femininity is what makes women what they are based on society's conception. With all the 'changing of the rules' it is just a bit more difficult of what is expected of men; and in a sense of women too.

Frangipan said...

Thank you for the link you posted on my blog, it was very interesting!